Na real wa!!!!!!!!!!! It's almost a sin in this part of the world to be 25, female and single. what is more worrying is the fact that everyone wants to hook you up with someone they think is your "soul mate", the sad part is if you refuse to go on a date or chat, they label you 'Miss Shakara' and other crazy names that are only best imagined and is not like the men sef make sense mschew. I won a case in court yesterday and I treated myself to a w-o-n-d-e-r-f-u-l m-a-s-s-a-g-e, for the first time in years, I actually relaxed for a bit, I really should do this more often...erm well, i'll need a salary raise to keep spoiling myself like that, my eyes met my watch and I realised I was running late, my two favourite people in the world would yell their lungs out today, but I had to glam up and yes I did. Lawrence had to admit, I looked ravishing and Sandra, my ever outspoken sister from another mother could not believe I had become an 'MUA' over night. we decided to do a late night movie and this got me super excited. A strikingly handsome man laid his hands on my shoulder, his cologne sent me to Pluto and back, In my head I had already picked a wedding date. We talked for a bit and he slid his card in my palm, I stored his number immediately and buzzed him up, I was all smiles because, his first impression was grand.
We both know you are either going to chat the fella up for a bit and dump him or you'll just friend zone him for life.... I snapped at Lawrence, what kind of talk is that? if he's into me, i'll sure let him rock my boat, I'm not anti-relationship jor, i'll just never settle for less or anything that will hurt me, at least not again. Why wont you get hurt? when you keep loving the wrong people, the Yoruba demon kind of guys, the men who can make you laugh but not give you joy, you ignore those who will give their life up just to see you smile and end up with those who have mastered the act of playing pretend, they hurt you and then you go on your regular relationship sabbatical. Olaoluwa I'm done watching you make wrong choices....I'm done. Sandra tried to pull Lawrence back from walking away but her hands failed her, I sincerely was lost and Sandra sure found me. Don't tell me you did not know that he wanted you for keeps. huh? b-u-t, ha, he never said anything to me, Sandra in her usual sarcastic tone.. "ehen" so he should cut of his head before you understand bah, all the special attention nkor, the calls, gifts, looks. come of it Ola, just say its your principle not to date your "paddys" that blindfolded you.
I barely slept that night, the drama kept replaying in my head, yes, I know I have PhD in "friend-zoning'' but he did not say jack to me about love and all that crap Sandra was saying about his calls and all, they are not tenable in my books, because most of my male friends call me for long hours too and I bug them as much as I trouble Lawrence, its his fault for not speaking in clear language abi how hard is it to ask your friend out? maybe it was his words, yes I love men that have game and where has it landed me? and then he blamed me for flaunting the single card for so long????? some of us love with our all, I'm guilty of taking my relationship too seriously, or how else do you explain praying and fasting, emptying your account, planning my life to complement their coconut heads and its not easy jumping into another..... its not like my heart has ever been broken because nothing ever happened that I did not envisage, I only stayed because I felt, they'll change, he'll outgrow it and one time, it was purely adventure. Sincerely, I'm very comfortable my single status, I just want money and need a record label to sign me up, enough of this lawyer duties, even though I am getting good at it and Lawrence had better get his act together, I cant afford to loose our friendship but for now let me find another bestie....................
I was on the plane to a new land, I was off to music school, I met this amazing gentle man whose eyes had forever beaming from them, everyone I had dated had forever beaming from their eyes so please do not trust my judgement. He did the needful but this time, I wasn't ready, I wanted to take my time to study him before jumping into any relationship, enough of adventures and trusting people's judgement. I was scared he might leave but I braced up and stuck to my guns and well he stayed, days became weeks and we became official, I kept looking for loop holes and found none, I said to myself this brother must be the CHIEF of all players. I had his passwords, and he pays attention to my every word, even though he is one of the busiest men on planet earth, he gave me the best gifts, he supported me, prayed with me, was ready to wait till the appropriate time before eating "the fruit" not like it had not be eaten before but he wanted to do it right. I came to the conclusion that he was mine and yes I let my hair down and enjoyed the new dawn...........
My boo had to be in Germany for a summit, I on the other hand got the opportunity to feature an international artiste on my first single, I was raving joyful..... the door bell to my flat rang I was about to go get it with my phone in my hand, when a message came in, 'stay off my boyfriend, Mathew is mine and you cannot come between us, by the way its fun not having you here in Germany with us. Love ya.' I opened the door and realised a package had come from him, it was the latest channel bag, a Fendi shoe and some clothes, he had told me they'll be delivered today, I just dumped them in one corner of the room and wept my eyes sore, I asked myself, what offence I had committed that evil men keep locating me, I felt like calling the number but it was point less, fighting for a man is a taboo in my books, I moved on but in the usual Olaoluwa's style, I withdrew gradually........ he kept asking what was wrong and I kept saying nothing....
Mathew knew I had changed but instead of him to confess he kept acting like he cared, he would have fooled me but that message ended the way he ends our messages abeg he is just like the rest, on one fateful Tuesday night, that same number called, the number called too many times I had to pick...''hey Ola! I am summoning you to our house, you should come meet us..............'' Tears flowed down my eyes, I managed to laugh and gist with the caller, we were on it for over three hours, by the way it was Mathew's mum, He had gisted me of how crazy his mum was in her younger years, he wanted me to meet his family from the minute we became official, but I was not ready, some mothers are hypocritical and deceit runs in their family lineage not like meeting them helps the union...... I remember meeting his aunt at an event, she had recognised me from pictures he had shown them, we exchanged numbers, I'm sure that how she got my number............ I ran off to a store and bought my baby a gift, I went to his office and asked for his forgiveness. I never knew life had left me jaded..... Mathew and I sort counselling and I must say, I learnt a lot, its funny how the indelible marks the past leaves us births attitude that can ruin one's future. I finally got to opening the gift that was delivered months back, I was going to rock the shoe and bag to my first ever interview, I opened the bag and alas!!!!!!!!!!!! it was a ring and a beautiful note that read.......
I know you are not ready yet,
this is not cos you are playing hard to get
but this is just to tell you dear,
that my forever is incomplete without you in it.....
If loving you is wrong then being right is an option
i'll never explore so be rest assured that my love for you is unconditional
and forever will never be enough to show you how much you mean to me..
Olaoluwami please be my wife, let's raise godly children and build our empire together......
P.S I know I still have to kneel but it'll be when you are ready and I'll know you are, when you text me your mums digits........
I just smiled, smiled and smiled again, I looked up to heaven and thanked God for a new dawn.
